• You  Don’t Have to be a Bad Person to be Treated Badly

    You Don’t Have to be a Bad Person to be Treated Badly

    Ever feel like you must be a really bad person because bad things keep happening to you? This is especially a problem for children. And sometimes, as children and then later as adults, we try harder and harder to be better only to have the same bad things happen. The result is that we don’t […]

  • Are you minding your own business?

    Are you minding your own business?

    This article has nothing to do with being a Nosey Nellie, but keep reading.   A lot of people say they want to get ahead financially. But most people don’t have a clue about what that actually mean, much less the steps to take to get there. To succeed in life and in business, you […]

  • A “Dear John” Letter to Stress

    A “Dear John” Letter to Stress

    Dear Stress, I want to break up. I know we’ve been together a long time but I don’t think our relationship is going anywhere and I want to move on. It isn’t that your company hasn’t been exciting. Perhaps it’s been a little too exciting—five episodes of road rage, four trips to the hospital with […]

  • For love or money?

    For love or money?

    Are you living life for love or money?   I spent some time recently with an 87-year old woman in a hospital.   When I asked her how she was feeling, she said she was thinking about how she had messed up her life.   I’ve known this woman for decades. I knew her husbands, her […]

  • Making New Year’s Resolutions? Keep ‘em personal.

    Making New Year’s Resolutions? Keep ‘em personal.

    Over the years, I have made New Year’s resolutions. Even set up Excel files, notebooks and calendars to achieve all my lofty goals. I went so far as to include all the S.M.A.R.T. goal issues: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic, Timely. And every Christmas as I clean out my office for the new year, I find […]

  • Some Things Never Change

    Some Things Never Change

    Typically, the holiday seasons are fraught with stress. As we all know, when you have the following formula, you have created the perfect storm:   Family members from the across the city, state or country + Varying traditional expectations + Numerous personal agendas + Too much food with too many chefs + Too much alcohol […]

  • The purpose of Traditions

    The purpose of Traditions

    Over the years, I’ve heard complaints, frustrations and angst about that weird thing we call “traditions”—especially during the holidays. But traditions are a part of human history.   We developed cheers for our favorite football teams that become part of the high school or college tradition—and part of our individual and collective memories.   We […]

  • The Power of One

    The Power of One

    For those of you who haven’t seen the movie Bridge of Spies with Tom Hanks, give yourself an amazing treat and run—don’t walk—to see perhaps the best movie of the year.   I don’t usually recommend movies because I know that everyone has their favorite genre, but this movie is not only thrilling, but also […]

  • Toxic People – Money Thieves

    Toxic People – Money Thieves

    Thieves are people or activities that take from you without enhancing your life. As I’ve mentioned in earlier Toxic People articles, thieves can steal your time, your energy, your self-esteem, your love, and your trust. This article is about one of the most disappointing thieves—those who steal your money.   I’m not talking about those […]



    When we are born, each of us is given a car to get around in life.  It’s called a body and it allows us to carry out the actions that our brains ask. And during our lifetimes, we spent thousands of hours washing that car, polishing that car, gassing up that car, detailing that car, […]