Thieves are people or activities that take from you without enhancing your life. As I’ve mentioned in earlier Toxic People articles, thieves can steal your time, your energy, your self-esteem, your love, and your trust. This article is about one of the most disappointing thieves—those who steal your money.
I’m not talking about those people who break into your home and rob you. I’m talking about those people you know who suck money out of your pockets with no conscience or compulsion to ever pay you back. They can ruin your life without a simple regret.
If you haven’t met any of these people:
- You are still in the crib
- You have no money to borrow
- You live alone on a desert isle
They are everywhere and they are disguised as your relatives, your neighbors, your co-workers, your friends, or even strangers you pass on the street.
And their techniques are creative.
- Some borrow from you with the promise to repay . . . but they don’t.
- Some forget their wallets repeatedly when a bill is presented for drinks or dinner so you end up picking up the tab.
- Some want to invest your money, thereby doing you the “favor” of making you wealthier, only to enjoy your money with ongoing lies about your investment return.
- Some try to guilt you into giving them money with their sob stories because you have more than they do.
Why do they do it?
- They are lazy and hard work is against their nature.
- They are dreamers who believe they’d be a success if only they had some of your money for the startup.
- They believe they deserve your hard-earned money because it would make life fair then.
- They are socially ignorant of the etiquette of picking up their part of the tab.
There are probably several other types of money thieves that you know personally and the sad part is that they take the fun and spontaneity and trust out of life for others.
What can you do about it?
- Learn to identify their techniques.
- Never discuss your money or investments in front of them.
- Avoid them like the plague.
- Tell them “no.”
Sadly, these people often come forward as people we know and like, but it’s a hurtful lesson that sometimes in life you just have to let go of people who don’t have your best interests at heart.
There will always be others who want what you have. Be willing to be strong and defend yourself. You don’t owe them anything. It doesn’t make you less of a nice person. It makes you smart.